February 2021 Newsletter Quit to Gain

When people talk about their intention to quit doing something, they’re usually planning to stop overeating, give up smoking, or take a break from drinking alcohol. Doing any of those things is definitely worthwhile. I can promise you that your life will be much better if you love your body and pay attention to your health.


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However, today I want to focus on different types of quitting that can improve your life. First, you’ll be amazed by what happens when you quit spending time with negative people and being involved in negative situations. Fortunately, if you eliminate the negative people from your life, you will also avoid negative situations.


For everything you have missed, you have gained something else, and for everything you gain, you lose something else.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson


No matter whether you are starting or continuing your journey to success, you cannot afford to be around negative people. Instead, you need to surround yourself with supportive, positive, and inspiring people. Negative people will simply suck passion, energy, creativity, and confidence out of you without giving anything back.


“In each loss there is a gain,

as in every gain there is a loss,

And with each ending comes a new beginning.”

— Buddhist proverb


A few years ago, I decided to quit being around people who have nothing nice to say about others, people who look for things to complain about, and people who are just downright jealous of anyone who has a positive attitude and outlook on life. After I made this decision, my life changed for the better.


When I quit being around negative people, I GAINED positive people in my life… people who are like-minded, people who know that complaining is contagious and can bring people down. I GAINED people in my life who care more than necessary about others, people who treat others with respect, and people who look at the bright side of life rather than the darkness.


“If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.” — Jim Rohn


During the 2020 presidential campaign, I found it very disturbing to witness educated people who I once respected spending a lot of their time and energy spreading lies about how the election was rigged. Over 60 U.S. high courts and Republican leaders did not find any evidence of discrepancies or wrongdoing in the voting process. In my opinion, this should be plenty of proof that the election was fair. Regardless of who the candidates are what is the purpose of spreading misinformation you know is factually not true?


In my experience, unhappy people look for opportunities to spread untruths or blame others for their own misfortunes. Remember, misery loves company. Stay far away from people who do this. I have unfriended on Facebook many people who have been spreading false claims that promote hatred and incite violence.


Here’s something else to consider: If people are spreading untruths about someone else, it’s just a matter of time before they spread them about you.


Our lives are way too precious and meaningful to let negative people disturb our peace. We have the ability to pick and choose the type of life we want to live. Choose quality, choose positivity, choose to love people more than ever before, and watch your entire life benefit.


Here’s another kind of quitting that can change your life for the better: Quit being just average at work. What do you gain by being average? Nothing!


If you want to live an above-average life, you need to be an above-average person. Being an above-average person means you have to QUIT doing things that are holding you back so you can GAIN better things and grow and spread your wings.


If not now, then when? And if not you, then who?


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Van Deeb is recognized as an authority in sales, customer service, and leadership. His proven methods and techniques helped Van build one of the largest real estate companies in the country, growing his business from just himself to an agency with 350 associates. Contact Van at his direct line: 402-680-8448, through email:, or on the Web at




What People in the Audience are Saying…

With Van's passion, humor and experience you can be assured of one thing- your audience is going to get fired-up, built-up, and fully charged –up. As an entrepreneur at the top of his game Van is in the unique position of being able to "talk the talk" because he has "walked the walk". Over the years he has been a great inspiration to me and my staff. Van is a speaker with charisma, humility and impact and he's a difference maker in the lives of the people he touches…"

—George Akers // President, First Mortgage Corp.

I wanted to thank you for coming and speaking with our company today. I thought your presentation was awesome! I was really motivated and inspired by your thoughts and ideas. I will use this motivation to grow my business and my personal life.”

—Justin Pauls // Realtor, Tampa, Florida

We are delighted you will be accepting the award for Omaha’s Top 25 fastest growing companies. Congratulations on your outstanding growth and we wish you continued success.”

—Tracey Fortina // Omaha Chamber of Commerce

Thank you for running such a class act company. It is an honor and a pleasure to be associated with someone such as yourself. I know you are probably one of the most respected businessmen in the region.”

—Dustin Talacko // Realtor, Omaha, Nebraska

Congratulations on writing “Selling from the heart” and thank you for sharing a copy with me. Your class has been one of the most enjoyable classes I’ve ever taken. Your enthusiasm and passion for your work are awesome. But the most refreshing part of the class was your delightful sense of humor. Thank you again for being a fantastic teacher.”

—Linda Reismeiler // Student at Randall School of Real Estate, Omaha, Nebraska

Kudos to you, Van, for reaching a major goal. But more than that...For successfully building one of Omaha’s best companies from scratch and making it thrive even in less than ideal market conditions. You have realized the American Dream...And brought it home to many, many others. My best to you!”

—Todd Andrews, Anchor and Producer, KETV Omaha

Having you here again was such a blessing to so many! As I looked at the pictures, I could see just how interested each and every person was in what you had to say!

This has been such a gift to our agents when they need it the most. The fact that you come, you are so genuine and caring, you are so honest, you are not trying to sell anything and your passion to help each and every person believe in themselves and become the best they can be is HUGE! The timing is perfect for us all helping and caring about each other, so, thank YOU from the bottom of my heart for giving of yourself to help all of us!”

—Carolyn Summerton // First Mortgage Company of Idaho

I enjoyed your seminar and its focus. I was on the fence whether or not to attend and decided why not? I could have sat through an all day session if there was one, usually I end up at the seminars that start with a focus and quickly go astray. I found with yours time flew by too fast and it was already time to go but I wasn’t ready to go.”

—Scott Asbill, CDPE // Associate Broker, Realtor