July 2017 Newsletter Where would I be without ________?

How would you fill in the blank? Is your life different today because of a certain person, event (positive or negative), or challenge? Think hard before filling in the blank. Who or what has had the most powerful influence in your life ?

If you feel that something is missing, it’s not too late to give your life and career that one ingredient, that one thing that will fulfill you and make you grateful for having something you need and can’t be without. Maybe it’s a person…maybe you need someone who makes you feel the same way as the lyrics in the hit song “You make me feel brand new” written in 1973 by the Stylistics:

Without you
Life has no meaning or rhyme
Like notes to a song out of time
How can I repay you for having faith in me
God bless you
You make me feel brand new
For God blessed me with you
You make me feel brand new
I sing this song ’cause you
Make me feel brand new

Ahhhh, that sweet, sweet Motown music!

I think a lot of successful people can say that they owe their career to one person. To live the life you want to live , you must choose wisely and make sure your significant other is a positive attribute in your life and not a liability. Are you a better person because of their influence? If not, maybe they’re not the right one for you.

If you didn’t fill in the blank with the name of a person, maybe you filled in a word like education, confidence, health, talent, perseverance, dedication , or determination. Personally, my question looks like this : ” Where would I be without MY ATTITUDE ?” I believe we are all on a level playing field and that God created all of us equal. I also believe that what separates the excited from the bored , the driven from the stagnant, the happy from the unhappy , and the successful from the unsuccessful is our attitude. Our attitude defines us.

“Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.”
Roy T. Bennett

I never could have accomplished what I have achieved without making the decision to have a positive attitude. I overcame the obstacle of being around a few critical, judgmental , and negative – thinking people and realized I didn’t want to be that way even though it might be in my DNA. I refused to be that person. I chose a positive attitude and decided to look at everything optimistically and be grateful for everything.

You’ve probably heard about how important it is to have “an attitude of gratitude .” I believe that’s how we should all be filling in our blank . Where would I be without an attitude of gratitude ? It is my opinion that if you don’t start out the day by choosing to have a good attitude , then you are being selfish, especially if you have a significant other, children, co – workers, managers, employees, or any other human being who depends on you. Having a good attitude not only affects the outcome of your day , it also affects the happiness and the success of the people around you. Having a good attitude is contagious to all those around you , and unfortunately a bad attitude is just as contagious .

“It is our attitude at the beginning of a difficult task which, more than anything else, will affect its successful outcome . The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind.”
William James

Whenever I give a speech, I always interact with the attendees before and after the presentation . One of the main commonalities I find in my audiences is that the happiest people in each company all have a positive attitude. They are the bright spots in the company. We all have the ability to have a positive mindset and to light up every room we walk in.

“With everything that has happened to you, you can either feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose.”
Dr. Wayne W Dyer

Some days it is harder than others to be happy and positive . That’s why it’s important to surround yourself with people who have an attitude of gratitude. They will pick you up when you need it most , and you will do the same for them. Spend your time with people who have a smile of gratitude instead of those with a frown of envy.

If you would like to change your attitude , don’t expect it to happen overnight . It takes thought, discipline , and determination to always be aware that you are your attitude. Your attitude is your blueprint . Ask yourself if your blueprint is worth copying. Your attitude should empower, encourage , and inspire every person you come in contact with .

So I ask you … where would you be without your_________?

If not now, then when? And if not you, then who?

Van Deeb is a coach, speaker, and author who is recognized as an authority on helping people reach their goals, create a written plan, build confidence, and live a more productive and fulfilled life. His proven methods helped Van build one of the largest real estate companies in the country, growing his business from just himself to an agency with 350 associates. Invite Van to present a workshop, keynote, or event at your company. Contact Van at his direct line: 402-680-8448, through email:, or on the Web at

What People in the Audience are Saying…

With Van's passion, humor and experience you can be assured of one thing- your audience is going to get fired-up, built-up, and fully charged –up. As an entrepreneur at the top of his game Van is in the unique position of being able to "talk the talk" because he has "walked the walk". Over the years he has been a great inspiration to me and my staff. Van is a speaker with charisma, humility and impact and he's a difference maker in the lives of the people he touches…"

—George Akers // President, First Mortgage Corp.

I wanted to thank you for coming and speaking with our company today. I thought your presentation was awesome! I was really motivated and inspired by your thoughts and ideas. I will use this motivation to grow my business and my personal life.”

—Justin Pauls // Realtor, Tampa, Florida

We are delighted you will be accepting the award for Omaha’s Top 25 fastest growing companies. Congratulations on your outstanding growth and we wish you continued success.”

—Tracey Fortina // Omaha Chamber of Commerce

Thank you for running such a class act company. It is an honor and a pleasure to be associated with someone such as yourself. I know you are probably one of the most respected businessmen in the region.”

—Dustin Talacko // Realtor, Omaha, Nebraska

Congratulations on writing “Selling from the heart” and thank you for sharing a copy with me. Your class has been one of the most enjoyable classes I’ve ever taken. Your enthusiasm and passion for your work are awesome. But the most refreshing part of the class was your delightful sense of humor. Thank you again for being a fantastic teacher.”

—Linda Reismeiler // Student at Randall School of Real Estate, Omaha, Nebraska

Kudos to you, Van, for reaching a major goal. But more than that...For successfully building one of Omaha’s best companies from scratch and making it thrive even in less than ideal market conditions. You have realized the American Dream...And brought it home to many, many others. My best to you!”

—Todd Andrews, Anchor and Producer, KETV Omaha

Having you here again was such a blessing to so many! As I looked at the pictures, I could see just how interested each and every person was in what you had to say!

This has been such a gift to our agents when they need it the most. The fact that you come, you are so genuine and caring, you are so honest, you are not trying to sell anything and your passion to help each and every person believe in themselves and become the best they can be is HUGE! The timing is perfect for us all helping and caring about each other, so, thank YOU from the bottom of my heart for giving of yourself to help all of us!”

—Carolyn Summerton // First Mortgage Company of Idaho

I enjoyed your seminar and its focus. I was on the fence whether or not to attend and decided why not? I could have sat through an all day session if there was one, usually I end up at the seminars that start with a focus and quickly go astray. I found with yours time flew by too fast and it was already time to go but I wasn’t ready to go.”

—Scott Asbill, CDPE // Associate Broker, Realtor